Alzheimer’s Strategy #5: No harm, no foul

As Deena’s dementia progressed, she became more and more confused about what products were used for what specific purpose.  This was especially true in the bathroom, when it came time to shower and dress.  Consequently, we had the ‘deodorant-as-hairspray episode’ and the unfortunate ‘toothpaste-as-hair gel’ incident, to name just a few. I learned over time not to…

Alzheimer’s Strategy #6: Going slower can be faster than going fast

Deena and I always moved at slightly different speeds.  I’m much more a pedal to the metal kind of person, while Deena took a more leisurely approach to life.  Our differences had complimented each other.  She taught me to slow down.  I taught her that some things required her to speed up. But I quickly learned that her dementia…

Alzheimer’s Strategy #7: I’m the only one that can change

Being a caregiver requires a fairly high degree of selflessness.  I don’t mean you have to be a saint, god knows I’m not, but you do have to recognize that your needs might not always have top priority and that you’re the only one who has the ability to consciously change your behavior.  As the disease progresses,…